Q1) How do we measure whether we are successful parents or not?
That depends on your own vision and definition of what good parenting means. What kind of parents do you want to be and what kind of children do you hope to raise? There is no universal yardstick on what good parenting is. All parents have their own value system that guides them. Hopefully our parenting philosophy will lead us to enjoy and love our children in spite of all their flaws and hopefully our children will gain a perspective in life that leads to hope and optimism in spite of its challenges.
This answer is written by Edwin Choy, the co-founder of Centre for Fathering. He has been married for 33 years to Lay Koon and is a father of 4 children from 21-29. Edwin’s work involves preparing couples for marriage, counselling, giving talks and conducting workshops on marriage enrichment, parenting, fathering, work-life balance and solution focused programmes for the work place. He also appeared numerous times on radio and conferences to speak to thousands on fathering and parenting issues in Singapore.
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