Q4) How far do you agree that infant care is superior to home baby-sitting?
(The full question is: Nowadays, infant care has gained widespread popularity with many purported benefits including better social development and earlier behavioural adjustment towards preparation for school/learning etc. How far do you agree that infant care is superior to home baby-sitting?)
This is one area where each family has to make their own call based on their own vision and understanding of how best to raise children.
Infants are utterly dependent on adults to provide for their basics needs. Bonding takes place when adults care for infants. Parents who take time attending to an infant’s needs consistently form an attachment with the baby which in turn helps the infant to develop trust with the parents. This trust is what helps an infant feels secure. In the light of this attachment theory, it would be logical to conclude that the most ideal environment is in the home where there are consistent and dedicated care givers.
Today’s dual income busy families have to make a choice that best fits them. Whatever choices you make, it is important for parents to spend as much time as possible to bond with your infant.
This answer is written by Edwin Choy, the co-founder of Centre for Fathering. He has been married for 33 years to Lay Koon and is a father of 4 children from 21-29. Edwin’s work involves preparing couples for marriage, counselling, giving talks and conducting workshops on marriage enrichment, parenting, fathering, work-life balance and solution focused programmes for the work place. He also appeared numerous times on radio and conferences to speak to thousands on fathering and parenting issues in Singapore.
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